We are not meant or created to walk life on our own. Jettisoning your friends because you are in a serious relationship or because you are married is folly of the highest order. They say your partner should be your best friend.
Does that mean you shouldn’t have other friends? It’s not having friends that destroys relationships but who you have as your friend and their influence in your decision making. Your friends dont have to be super close friends with your partner as well. Knowing them and being comfortable with them is okay. For me , I like when we have common friends but that’s not always the case.
There should be clear boundaries with your friends especially as it borders on your relationship. Beware of friends that will exploits the weakness in your relationship to cause more havoc. Friends that are so quick to tell you to dump your partner without proffering any solution.
The emphasis of my message today is to let us know that we need friends outside of our partner to build a happy and healthy relationship. Yes. Great and awesome friends that build, nurture, sharpen and grow you.
Ask yourself then. Who are my friends?